To me, gratitude is the antidote to negativity. Yes, life sucks sometimes but when we focus on what we have, we feel better.
In the Stress Less Take 5, the Daily Gratitude practice is taking 5 minutes at the end of each day to write down a couple of things you are thankful for in the day that has passed. Pretty simple, huh? And yet sometimes it can be tough: we get so down in the weeds with office politics and the minutiae of the day to day that we forget to notice the good things…like the fact we have a job!
I tell the team this is personal and won’t be checked, and I’ll commit to keeping it private. Whatever you write is what you write, no judgement. One specific instruction I give is that’s it’s important to be grateful to yourself. Perhaps you pushed through with a difficult task and solved a problem. Perhaps you faced a fear and delivered a presentation even though you hate public speaking. No doubt how your day went, there was undoubtedly something you owe yourself thanks for. Look for it.
One of the best lessons from my mindfulness training taught me was to love and value myself as I would one of my dearest friends. It was a hard lesson: like many people I was unconsciously beating myself up all the time. Realising that was tough. I want different for myself, and I want different for my team, so part of the practice is about being kinder to ourselves.